Why I embrace the pivot…

If there is one thing I know how to do successfully, it is how to embrace the pivot.  Recently, a friend and I were out shopping when we saw a sign that said, “Create a Life You Love.”  She turned to me and said, “This is you.” She speaks truth. The reality is, I had to claw my way into this life.

When I was younger, I didn’t realize how much  control and agency I truly had, and simply followed the track that I was placed on. Since then, my life has veered drastically off course several times, causing me to stop, do a deep dive, and ask myself,

After several years of teaching sixth grade, I recognized a larger calling into worship ministry. Through sweat, tears, training, and fears I was able to successfully transition into a new career as a worship leader and songwriter. I literally sing for my supper, and it’s amazing.

Later I found myself in yet another toxic, harmful relationship, only this time it made it all the way to marriage. One day, I realized I had to stop. I analyzed all of my relationships and realized that I had a pattern of partnering with addicts and abusers, and it wasn’t working. I paused again and asked myself –

No. I was not. No. He was not. So I walked away. Rather than go for addict 4.0 or abuser 3.0, I took a break from relationships, did the work, and I broke the cycle of codependency that plagued me for over a decade.

Now I live a life that I truly love.

You have the power to claim the life you deserve.